A thought ...
When I am around Gay assimilationists, I often feel like I'm associating with straight men, and I'm reminded of Gay author James Baldwin's warning that when a minority group attempts to assimilate, it always does so totally on the terms of the dominant culture. And Gay men are being accepted by hetero culture to the extent that they look, behave and think just like straight men, in the process becoming dispirited people.
EXCERPT FROM GAY PEOPLE AT A CRITICAL CROSSROADS:
ASSIMILATION OR AFFIRMATION By Don Kilhefne