This day was envisioned when I looked into his eyes. I was pulled to him more strongly than if he were using a rope to bring me to him. I could not reject these feelings, I was in love. The power of the love held us more than any glue, it held us up, it was a foundation of what would be our family. A family unlike any other as it was my family, our family. It was something we both wanted and needed.
I asked Steven if he would be my partner for life, The answer was yes and we began a life so rich I wish it for all. Steven told me he had one wish before he left this world. "I want to know I was loved and I loved before I die." Steven asked me two days before he died if I remembered his wish. I did and let him carry on. "I have loved, I am loved. "
How can anyone deny our relationship, the love that existed, that it contributed to our community and extended families. Would the community be any richer if we had not been a family, would society be better off if we were not together? We had become a family just like many others in this country, around the world. I suggest we may have had more than many however. How many gay men or lesbian women have lived a lie because they saw no alternative, how many hid their feelings, how many missed what Steven and I had because of the fear, threats real and imagined.
Steven and I were denied marriage. We had it in all but name and today, the Parliament of Canada passed into law the reality, recognised that Steven and I had and thousands of others have today. They have a family, they contribute to the community. Our country and we collectively as Canadians are richer.
As I posted yesterday, Stephanie and I raise our glasses to the sky today, to the universe, "it is real Steven, it is real Dad."
Will you marry me Steven?
"...Fly me up to where you are
Beyond the distant star I wish upon tonight
To see you smile
If only for awhile to know
you're there A breath away's not far
To where you are..."
from - To Where You Are
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